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Dear Love,

First of all, thank you. Thank you for walking this wild new journey with me, for being there in the middle of the night when it feels like the rest of the world is sleeping (except our baby, of course). I know these past few months have been a whirlwind—a mix of joy, exhaustion, and moments where we just look at each other and think, “What just happened?”

Let’s face it, neither of us knew what we were getting into. Sure, we read the books, watched the YouTube videos, and smiled through advice from every other parent we know. But nothing prepared us for the reality of being responsible for this tiny human. And while we’re slowly getting the hang of it (sort of), I need to say a few things that I’ve been thinking about in the haze of diaper changes and midnight feeds.

We’re In This Together

There are days when I feel overwhelmed. I might seem like I’ve got it together—holding the baby in one arm while folding laundry with the other—but inside, I’m winging it. I need you to know that I don’t have it all figured out. Sometimes, I feel like I’m flying by the seat of my (very comfy, postpartum) pants. So, when I ask for help, it’s not because I think you’re slacking—it’s because I trust you. You’re my teammate, my rock, and yes, the best burper of babies ever.

And please, don’t feel like you have to “get it perfect” either. Just like I’m learning how to be a mom, you’re learning how to be a dad. Mistakes? They’re inevitable. But we’ll laugh about them later. (Remember that time you tried to swaddle him, and he looked more like a burrito gone wrong? Yeah, me too.)

Communication is Key

Sometimes I forget to tell you what I need, and then I get frustrated when you can’t read my mind (I know, not fair, right?). So, let’s promise each other to talk more, even when it’s hard or we’re too tired to string sentences together. Over-communicate, even if it feels like we’re stating the obvious. It’s the only way we’ll keep this ship from sinking. You’ll understand that when I hand you the baby and say, “I need a break,” it’s not because I don’t want to hold him. It’s because my arms have been carrying him for hours, and I need a moment to remember I exist too.

You’re Still My Person

In the chaos of new parenthood, I know we don’t have the same kind of time for just us. Between feedings, nappies, and trying to sleep when the baby does, our old “Netflix and chill” routine looks a lot more like “sleep and survive.” But I want you to know this—you’re still my person. The one who makes me laugh, even when I’m covered in baby spit-up. The one who reminds me that we’re in this together, even when things are messy.

Let’s carve out time for us—maybe not date nights just yet, but little moments where we reconnect. Whether it’s sitting on the couch together after the baby’s asleep, or grabbing a cup of coffee (yes, probably cold, but who’s complaining?), let’s make sure we don’t lose sight of us. Because even though we’re parents now, we’re still us.

Thank You for Everything

Thank you for making me feel seen, even when I haven’t showered in three days. For picking up the slack when I’m too tired to function, and for reminding me that we’re doing a good job, even when it feels like we’re just surviving. Thank you for being the kind of dad our baby will look up to, for the love you show him, and for the love you give me, every single day.

Here’s to us, to our little family, and to figuring it all out, one chaotic, beautiful day at a time.

With all my love (and maybe a little more coffee), Your (forever sleep-deprived) Wife