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Let’s be real for a second—parenting is hard enough without the added weight of judgment from other moms. Whether it’s the breastfeeding vs. bottle-feeding debate or whether you opt for a cot bumper in the crib, it sometimes feels like there’s an invisible scoreboard keeping track of how “well” we’re doing as moms. And guess what? That scoreboard is nonsense. Every parent makes different choices because every baby, family, and situation is unique. So, instead of being a Nasty Nancy, how about we become each other’s cheerleaders?

Breastfeeding vs. Bottle-Feeding: The Never-Ending Debate

Ah, the age-old question: breast or bottle? With Cara, I was all set on breastfeeding, but like many things in motherhood, it didn’t go according to plan. Let’s just say, we didn’t exactly hit the breastfeeding Olympics. So, out came the bottles, and we made it work. But I remember feeling so guilty, like I was failing at some invisible mom test. And then came Mikael, and by that time, I’d learned my lesson: fed is best, full stop.

Whether you’re breastfeeding, bottle-feeding, combo-feeding, or, heck, using formula from day one—who cares? As long as your baby is thriving and you’re keeping your sanity in check, you’re doing amazing. Each mom must choose what works for her and her baby. What works for Cara might not work for Mikael, and that’s okay! So, if you see a mom at the grocery store bottle-feeding her baby, give her a smile instead of side-eye. She’s got her reasons, and we’re all just doing the best we can.

And here’s the thing: being the mom that judges says more about you than the other mom “doing it wrong.” Let’s remember we’re all on this journey together, and we need a lot more kindness and a little less judgement.

The Great Cot Bumper Controversy

And then there’s the cot bumper debate. Some swear by them, saying they add a layer of protection and comfort, while others claim they’re unsafe and unnecessary. When Cara was born, I decked out her crib with the cutest cot bumpers I could find—because let’s be honest, they do make the crib look Pinterest-perfect. Then came Mikael, and I read all the articles about them being a safety hazard, so his crib looked like a minimalist’s dream—just a mattress and fitted sheet.

The truth is, every parent will weigh the risks and benefits differently. Some moms feel more comfortable using bumpers, while others don’t, and both are doing what they feel is best. Instead of arguing over who’s right, let’s remind ourselves that we’re all just trying to keep our babies safe and happy. The right choice is the one that gives you peace of mind.

Stop the Judgement, Start the Support

Let’s face it, mom judgement is toxic. Parenting is tough enough without feeling like you’re constantly under a microscope. So, how about we do this instead: instead of being the reason another mom feels insecure or second-guesses herself, be the reason she feels seen, encouraged, supported, and important. Don’t be a Nasty Nancy—be lekker!

When you see a mom struggling, offer her a word of encouragement. When you notice a different parenting style, remind yourself that her choices are valid too. You never know what’s happening behind the scenes—whether it’s postpartum struggles, a difficult baby, or just plain exhaustion. Your kind words or supportive nod can make all the difference.

Cinnamon & Spice Moms Lift Each Other Up

At Cinnamon & Spice, we’re all about making #momlife easier and prettier for everyone. That means celebrating the diversity of motherhood and embracing the choices we each make. Whether you’re rocking a minimalist nursery or going all out with personalized decor, whether you’re breastfeeding for two years or using formula from the start—we see you. And we think you’re doing a fantastic job.

So, here’s a little reminder from one tired-but-proud mom to another: let’s build each other up. Let’s spread kindness, cheer each other on, and create a space where every mom feels empowered to make the choices that are right for her and her baby.

Conclusion: Spread Kindness, Be Lekker

In the end, we’re all in this parenting journey together. So, the next time you find yourself in a conversation about breast vs. bottle, or debating the safety of cot bumpers, remember: each parent must decide for themselves what’s best. And let’s not forget—what really matters is that we raise our kids with love, patience, and a whole lot of humor.

Let’s be each other’s cheerleaders, not critics. 💖 #MomLife easier, prettier, and kinder since 2020!